FRIDAY110222 / we do not need guilt
I used to think guilt was useful. That it helped keep in check our tendencies to be unfair or violent; that it kept our anger in check and held us back from committing crimes. But the truth is more likely that if we based our connection and togetherness on guilt as a value we would be (as we are) generating more violence than the one we would be trying to avoid. This is the most enlightening way to investigate this: every time we are feeling angry towards someone or we are blaming somebody for something we can look into it: How are we feeling guilty relative to the situation? How would it affect our anger if guilt was out of the way?
I have changed my mind about guilt. We do not need it. It is of no use to anyone. The fact that we feel it is nothing more but an opportunity to cultivate more awareness and more compassion, an opportunity to go deeper. The attempt to transform guilt is a very interesting endeavour. It can set us free from trauma. When I feel guilty I am focusing on what is wrong with me. When I am transforming guilt I am focusing on how I hurt and on what mechanisms I can develop in order to take care of myself relative to this hurt. There is emotional pain attached to our guilt. Because there is emotional abuse attached to the creation of guilt. We cannot completely heal abuse and trauma without actively engaging with the transformation of guilt.
WEDNESDAY180821 / after a Frida Kahlo & Diego Rivera exhibition
We can, and maybe we must take the pain of relationships for granted and celebrate as victories all our attempts to navigate through them with integrity, authenticity and compassion, even when those attempts appear to be completely unsuccessful.
WHAT I AM HERE FOR
We are energy. Energy animates all physical matter into the physical life. It is our vital life force. This energy flows and vibrates inside of us and forms our physical experience. Our sense of freedom in our lives depends on the unobstructed freedom with which our vital life force energy flows in us. The less obstructed the flow of this energy is, the higher its vibration and the more freedom we have in our lives to enjoy and create the things that we want, for the benefit of ourselves and those around us. This is the definition of good holistic health.
Some of the things that can obstruct the flow of our vital life force energy and lower our vibration are: ancestral trauma, childhood trauma, limiting thoughts & beliefs, dysfunctional relationships, negative emotions, pain, inner conflict, collective conflict, social oppression, codependency, self-hate, low self-worth, lack of self-awareness, habits and behaviours that promote disconnection.
In my work as a healer, vibrational consultant, writer and artist I put all my efforts into guiding people on how to identify and heal what obstructs the flow of their vital life force and help them raise their vibration and improve their lives.
Some of the practices that have and continue to inform my work: Reiki, Healing with Visualisations, Homeopathy, Dramatherapy, Psychology, Performance Making, Nichiren Buddhism.
I am a queer, non-binary, agender individual, who practices consensual non-monogamy & intentional trauma informed communication.
You can contact me if you are someone who wants to overcome a physical, emotional, mental or spiritual obstacle, if you want to improve your knowledge about yourself, improve your relationships, your work and financial situation, or your health.
You can contact me if you are a group, organisation or business interested in overcoming an obstacle in the development of a creative project, if you want to gain awareness and improve communication, collaboration, and inclusivity within your group, business or organisation, or organise a customised talk or seminar for the benefit of your stuff members and colleagues.
You can also contact me if you want my contribution to a writing project.